Because she really is beautiful

My small group is just about finished with our current study.

We are reading Jeff Feldhan's "For Men Only." It does a decent enough job trying to demystify the woman brain for confused men like me. This week in particular was interesting.

One of the chapters was devoted singularly to the notion that all women need to be told that they are pretty. Apparently, there is an innate need within them to simply feel beautiful. This doesn't stem from some malfunction with which they are more needy than they ought to be; rather, it is a simple extension of the little princess that [apparently] every girl becomes when they are around 5 years old. Just as when they ask their dad "am I pretty?" and do a little twirl, the same question resonates for the rest of their lives.

The chapter delved as to the weight of a man's words to the woman--specifically the husband/boyfriends. You see, the logic is that women can be told that they are pretty by a myriad of people. However, if they don't hear it from the one person that they want to hear it most from, it will nullify any other compliment she had previously received. In other words, it won't matter if the whole world thinks she's stunning. If she feels boring or ugly to the one man whom she has invested her life into, nothing else will matter.

What I find so curious is that many men (including me) fail to realize the importance of this concept. It seems simple. Reassure and reaffirm the fact that the woman still holds an unequal level of beauty in their eyes and say it with sincerity. But it's startling.

How many men consistently, and frequently, tell their women that they are the most beautiful person on planet earth?

Life is all about the attention to detail. Even small things like telling her she still makes your heart skip a beat.